Still Going It Alone: Mothering with Faith and Finesse When the Children Have Grown

by Michele Howe


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Retail: $14.95
Size: 5.5 x 8.5 inches
Binding: Paper
Pages: 144
Pub Date: 2008
ISBN: 9781598562415
ISBN-13: 9781598562415
Item Number: 562415
Categories: Christian Living
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Product Description

Still Going It Alone addresses issues common to women who have been at the task of single parenting for some seasons. These unique women now face the prospect of sending their children off to college, to a distant career site, or to be married and must continue to fulfill their ever-altering parental role. Moms with grown children also realize the need for wise financial planning and career re-assessment. Each single mom understands they may never re-marry, that growing old and retiring alone is a very real possibility. For many, the future looms in uncertainty. This resource book will provide practical hope and continually redirect women to the source of all comfort, God and His word.

TABLE OF CONTENTS
• Entering the Crossroads: Betwixt and Between the Empty Nest
• Gathering Strength for the Last Hurrah: Endurance to Finish Strong
• Imparting Vision and Setting Goals: Foundations for Making Wise Choices
• Navigating New Relational Territories: Wise Counsel for Marriage Preparation
• Welcoming Your Extending Family: Guidance for Relating to In-Laws
• Assessing Career and Educational Options: Insights for a Promising Tomorrow
• Instilling Financial Stability: Preparations for Today and Tomorrow
• Welcoming the Next Generation: The Precious Gift of Grandparenting
• Negotiating the Convergent Life: The Struggle of Caring for Your Aging Parents
• Pondering Remarriage: The Ongoing Dilemma of Beginning Again
• Accepting the Limitations of Aging: A Needed Reality Check
• Discovering Joy and Contentment Despite the Unknown: The Unchanging Faithfulness of God

"As kids grow up a mom's role shifts and changes, and it's not always easy to adjust. In her new book, Still Going It Alone, Michele Howe offers practical and positive principles for single moms who are entering those empty nest years and beyond. From preparing your kids for their careers to imparting goal-setting directives to helping them make wise choices in relationships, Michele's book covers every aspect of encouraging grown children to succeed in life. Most importantly she points moms to the Lord as their true source of peace and strength. Each chapter is filled with personal stories and practical applications to benefit every mom. I highly recommend this book as a guidebook for all single moms with grown kids."
—Karol Ladd, author of The Power of a Positive Mom

Reviews

"Howe wrote her first book, Going It Alone, for newly divorced moms who faced raising their young children alone. Now she helps mothers take steps farther down the road as children leave the nest and begin families of their own. 'It is my hope and prayer that this book offers single moms a safe place—a community—where they find rest and renewed hope, strength, and shelter,' the author says. She addresses many unique challenges facing single moms as they enter a new phase of life: an empty house, helping young adult children set goals and building new relationships with them, in-laws, new career options, finances, grandparenting and more. Her chapters on caring for elderly parents and aging are especially helpful. Howe laces her book with real-life stories and adds hands-on action steps in each chapter’s 'Ready, Set, Adjust!' sections. Chapters also include a prayer and final thought taken from a pertinent book. Howe targets an audience not often aimed at and hits it dead on."
Publishers Weekly

“The saying, “Once a parent, always a parent,” is so true. In her book Single Parenting for the Second Half of Life, Michele Howe offers encouragement and advice for single moms who are approaching the empty nest and looking beyond. As well as accepting the changes that take place in the parent/adult-child relationship, single moms need to look to their futures regarding friends, finances, and job opportunities. And Michele also points out the importance of keeping their lives centered on their Maker.”
— Susan Osborn, Director of the Christian Communicator Manuscript Critique Service, author of 29 books.

“Calling single mothers toward a future ‘flush with opportunity,’ Michele Howe invites her readers into others’ lives while sharing doable steps, heart-felt prayers and poignant excerpts as they release their grown children, change careers or anticipate retirement, consider remarriage and embrace aging. A timely book with a much-needed chapter on preparing your child for marriage using wisdom earned from experience.”
— Kari West, speaker and author, When He Leaves: Help and Hope for Hurting Wives

“With her signature encouraging attitude, Michele Howe passes on her wisdom from the trenches to Christian single mothers, assisting them to navigate life with faith and finesse after their children have grown. Michele invites us to live our present moments fully while also focusing on the future. She explains that “perfection doesn’t exist this side of heaven” and bids us to 'redefine our terms and open our eyes and heart in gratitude' to all that life holds for us. She encourages us to continue to invest time in vital family relationships.
“Creatively utilizing ‘slice of life’ scenarios for single mothers, Michele paints realistic pictures covering many aspects of life. Beginning with the empty nest and progressing to setting goals, preparing for future realities and possibilities which may include aging parents, remarriage, accepting limitations, facing the unknown, and discovering joy amid it all—Michele gives single mothers much to ponder and embrace for true contentment in their vocations as Christian mothers. Michele Howe’s spiritual wisdom and attitude are encouraging and contagious! Still Going It Alone: Mothering with Faith and Finesse after the Children Have Grown is a book that you’ll want to read and ponder over a cup of tea. You’ll be drawn in to its welcoming ambiance and won’t be able to put it down! ”
— Donna-Marie Cooper O’Boyle, author of The Heart of Motherhood, Prayerfully Expecting, Catholic Prayer Book for Mothers, Catholic Saints Prayer Book, The Domestic Church: Room by Room, and Grace Café: Serving up Recipes for Faithful Mothering

“What now? The kids are grown and gone. Still Going It Alone: Mothering with Faith and Finesse When the Children Have Grown, by Michele Howe is here to help you deal with the transition. No more arguments about curfews, SAT scores, bad-driving habits, homework, or Saturday morning clean-your-room frenzies? Many single mothers, who have devoted their lives to rearing their children, often feel lost when their children grow up and leave the nest. These mothers have spent so many unselfish hours mothering and providing for their children that they’ve forgotten how to have a life for themselves, and they find parenting a grown child different and challenging. Howe’s book targets single moms whose children have moved on and out. (This book is a sequel to Michele’s book, Going it Alone, which is for single moms rearing younger children.)

“Michele’s positive self-help book will show women how to acclimate to these new crossroads by giving them examples of how other moms became more aware mentally and spiritually. A few of the chapter topics are: entering the crossroads, relating to in-laws, instilling financial stability, grandparenting, and caring for aging parents. Each chapter begins with a Scripture quote and consists of different real-life stories of struggling women, a step-by-step section on how to adjust to changes and set positive action plans, a mother’s prayer, and a thought for the day.

“This book is well organized, but it’s easy for readers to get confused as to which character each story is about because there are so many different stories within each chapter. This isn’t a “quick-read” sort of book. The benefit to the reader will be greatly improved if she takes her time to reflect on and absorb each chapter’s message. This is a great reference book — one that mothers will want to keep handy as their lives continue to change — to reflect on over and over again. The back of the book also contains recommended resources for further reading and spiritual growth.

“Chapter Six’s Bible verse is from 2 Timothy 1:7. It says, "For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." I recommend this book for mothers who are looking for a boost with this parenting transition. Be prepared to journey with proactive single moms who look at this new parenting quest as an opportunity to grow and embrace change through the power, love and self-discipline that God has given us.”
Christian Book Previews

"This well-written book is unique in that it is based on an ideology of hopefulness and acceptance in the face of adversity, focusing on substance and reason rather than emotional affectation. It is written for a specialized audience, particularly Christian single mothers, and offers a distinctive spiritual background to parental approaches. Howe does an excellent job of exploring many subjects that people don't commonly think about, like caring for an aging parent or how to deal with your in-laws. STILL GOING IT ALONE offers a lot of food for thought for every mother and is well worth reading."
Faithful Reader

“As all parents know, there are many books to choose from when we make a trip to the bookstore our browse Amazon.com. But there are few and far between that are geared toward helping single mothers make the often difficult transition from a house full of children to one that is empty. Still Going It Alone: Mothering with Faith and Finesse When the Children Have Grown by Michele Howe is a must-read for moms making this life transition.

“Howe addresses in a Christian voice, a unique and equally important population of single moms in the process of sending their children off to college, a job, or into marriage. As with all life changes, the role of mother is still ever-important, but it changes as children grow and become more independent. Howe does a wonderful and respectful job of gently guiding mothers through these changes in a strong, reassuring voice. Clearly, the goal of this book is to provide single women with a way to connect and strengthen her relationship with grown children while also addressing personal issues all mothers wrestle with such as dealing with an “empty nest”, remarriage, growing old alone, financial reassessment, and career goals. .

What I really love about this book: Howe does a marvelous job of making each chapter reader-friendly in terms of brief - yet powerfully packed - paragraphs and antidotes. With topics such as: Assessing Career and Educational Options; Pondering Remarriage; and Discovering Joy and Contentment Despite; the author gives mothers lots to think about and reflect upon in their own lives. In addition, the end of each chapter contains two unique and inspiring messages: “Every Mother’s Prayer” and a “Thought for the Day” with carefully crafted messages and thought-provoking prayers that give the reader a sense of calm closure at the end of their daily reading.

The Bottom Line: Don’t miss this great opportunity to read a book that will not only help you — but inspire you!"
Parenting Pink

Still Going It Alone addresses issues common to women who have been at the task of single parenting for some seasons. These unique women now face the prospect of sending their children off to college, to a distant career site, or to be married and must continue to fulfill their ever-altering parental role. Moms with grown children also realize the need for wise financial planning and career reassessment. Each single mom understands they may never remarry, that growing old and retiring alone is a very real possibility. For many, the future looms in uncertainty. This resource book will provide practical hope and continually redirect women to the source of all comfort, God and His word.”
Breathe Again Magazine

Author Bio

Michele Howe is the author of twenty books including Navigating the Friendship Maze; There’s a Reason They Call It Grandparenting; Preparing, Adjusting, and Loving the Empty Nest; Caring for Our Aging Parents: Lessons in Love, Loss, and Letting Go; and Empty Nest, What’s Next? Parenting Adult Children without Losing Your Mind. She has published over 1,000 articles and has been featured on radio shows across the country speaking on parenting and women’s health issues.

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